Yesterday I found out that a friend of mine is holding a concert at the space where my band practices. My drummer is going to DJ, another friend is too. Also A few acquaintance's bands are going to play. My drummer actually runs the place where the concert is going to be held. It's a skatepark that has been open for three years and he is the GM.
I found out that our band didn't get invited to play at this concert. We have been playing for two years and have about 10 original songs and are more than capable of playing a show. I have been trying to get our band to play more concerts but it seems like our drummer is just really hesitant about playing live. He used to be a guitar player and he isn't bad but he isn't great yet either. Honestly I don't care because drummers that are too good just wind up playing tons of fills and not concentrating on the beat. So I kind of flipped out at the whole situation. I asked the guy holding the concert why he didn't think about asking our band. He said "I've never heard you guys." Which is a fair answer but we live in the same town we both play music I've released a few of our recording, we are on Instagram playing music all the time. The only reason I can think of why he hasn't heard us is because he purely isn't interested. This is a guy who I thought of as a friend for at least 8 years. I guess I was wrong about him being a friend. I asked my drummer who runs the skatepark why aren't we going to play at this event and he responded with something like "I don't want to play with the other bands that are playing" and honestly it just sounds like bullshit. I don't want to toot my own horn but I am a decent guitar player and a pretty good drummer. I can play bass when I have to. I feel like if the other people in my band aren't willing to play live shows with me then there is no point playing with them anymore. I can just make music myself. Which sucks though. I think anyone who has played with other people realizes that playing live with other members just feels right. So now I am in the situation where I have confront my drummer about why he doesn't want to play live. We had a concert scheduled a few months ago and he canceled it because he had to work. He is the GM and other people work there. Why couldn't he just take the night off? There was a pretty awesome concert going to happen and he didn't even try to get us on the bill. I understand that he is not the person planning the concert but if it were me I would at least try to get us to play. It just seems like he is avoiding playing live and I am sick of it. I have no idea if this is inside of my head. I can't think of who I would play with if this band broke up. I have made music on my own in the past and honestly I am more capable now that I have ever been. Anyways, this was just a shitty situation and it definitely put stress to two of my friendships to the point where I don't even care if I see one of the guys ever again.
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